You Don’t Owe Him S*X!

I know, super romantic isn’t it?

But stick with me because…

This is like my version of the SUPER BOWL!

My genius is helping clients attract healthy, happy, & lasting LOVE !

And with Valentine’s Day coming and all of the many interesting, confusing and highly anxious emotions it brings for more people than not, I’ve got clarity for you.

The kind of clarity that has helped so many of my clients MANIFEST deep, safe, happy, connected relationships!

For those of you who are in the early stages of getting to know someone new…

Or in a long-term situation that feels chaotic and confusing…

Or just trying to figure out where you stand with someone you may be involved with…

I have some valuable information that may shift your dating life forever. It comes from working with a lot of broken hearted women trying to find love again.

You don’t owe him…

He drove a long distance to see you. You do not owe him sex.

He bought you a lovely dinner and planned a fabulous evening for you and you had a great time. You do not owe him sex.

He said and did all the "right things". You do not owe him sex.

He's amazing, successful, fun, generous and kind...You want to keep him around. Sex won’t keep him around, trust me!

He can do whatever he wants, and your boundaries still get to be non-negotiable.

Your boundaries are about YOU, not him.

This topic is coming up a lot in conversations lately.

"Even though I felt uncomfortable and told him so, he continued to touch me in a way I didn't like." (He violated my boundaries)

"I wasn't all that attracted to him, but feel obligated to see him again (or kiss him, or be intimate) because he put in so much effort (or time, or money)." (I’m violating my boundaries, ignoring my preferences)

"I'll sound like a bitch if I say 'no' to his advances." (I’m violating my boundaries)

"He went through all this trouble, I feel like I owe him something." (I’m placing HIS needs/wants over MINE)

These are also things I have thought, said, or felt before.

These are things my clients and friends tell me.

These are all lies we were taught that keep us feeling unworthy and unlovable.

These are all the ways we unknowingly prostitute ourselves.

Don’t come at ME for saying what we both know is true!

Here is more truth:

You are not a bitch for saying "No."

You are not a bitch for receiving kindness and generosity and not repaying with your body. (I can teach you ways to show appreciation)

You are not a bitch for leaving a situation that feels unsafe. (You are taking care of yourself…yay!)

You are not a bitch for having clear boundaries and honoring those boundaries. (You VALUE yourself and high value men LOVE that…yay!)

AND...

If he calls you a bitch, becomes angry with you, ridicules you, tries to manipulate you into relaxing your boundaries, then you know everything you need to know about him.

The next time you find yourself compromising your own values and boundaries in any situation (not just around dating relationships, but at work, with your kids, your friends or community), pause and ask yourself these important questions…

What is it you are afraid of giving up or experiencing by honoring what is true for you? 

Where are you placing someone else's values above yours and why?

How is it serving YOU to do this? Because there is ALWAYS a payoff. It’s only when you wake up to what version of you you are most committed to that you truly evolve and experience significant and lasting transformation. Until then, you will serve the old, wounded, scared inner toddler. 

When You Heal Your Emotional Wounds and LOVE Yourself Unconditionally…You Are MAGNETIC!

If you have bought into the lie that you are not worthy of receiving, you will have a very difficult time receiving from high value men. You will always feel like you "owe" something in return beyond your presence. 

As a very high value, very masculine man recently shared with me, "most women don't understand that they were born worthy and valuable. period. There is literally nothing she needs to do to be worthy." 

When I really started to understand AND embody this idea, my life became so much more fun and joyful.  AND I became much more attractive to really incredible men who simply enjoy spending time with me without expectation of anything more in return than my presence. I always feel safe around the men I am with, whether it is a dating relationship, a friendship, a business relationship or a family relationship. This was not always the case. 

One big part of the work I do with my clients is teaching them how to receive from men without the obligation of "owing" them something in return. 

This is not a selfish act. It's a worthiness exercise. It is designed to help them develop their femininity. We notice what comes up in them, what stories they tell themselves while they are feeling vulnerable and where they are ready to abandon their values in order to be liked, avoid punishment or abandonment. 

Then they start to learn...

High value men LOVE to GIVE. They love to plan things, take care of people, have FUN with women who know how to relax and enjoy their FEMININE energy. 

High value men also find women who maintain very high standards for themselves to be incredibly attractive and the type of women they WANT to bond and connect and build lives with. 

This is not about being a princess and taking all you can get from a man. Not at all. 

This is about embodying your worthiness in a society where women have been conditioned to believe the lie that says they are only worth what the scale says, who they are dating, or their surface beauty or how perfect they are. 

When you meet a woman who loves herself fully and unconditionally and knows her inherent value, you meet a very attractive and powerful woman.

A woman who has done the work to heal the wounded feminine in her and has access to her divine feminine activates and invites the divine masculine to rise up. She filters out the wounded masculine men who are not ready for deep and intimate connections…they no longer even cross her path and her world is suddenly filled with incredible people who adore her, respect her and are magnetically drawn to her!

I support my clients on their healing journey as they do the deeper work, raise their standards, understand how to know and communicate their boundaries and attract high value partners. 

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